One of the hardest things about breast cancer is that it affects more than just you. It is particularly difficult when you have been diagnosed with breast cancer and be a parent at the same time. Being a parent is one of the best things that one can experience in this life. We make sure that we do what we can to help them become well-adjusted adults when it is time for them to face the world on their own.
The trouble with cancer—especially breast cancer—is that it can be an extremely trying event in the lives of children; regardless of their age. Children often feel things quite differently and despite the most behaved or well-mannered children, there will still be negative effects in the face of breast cancer in the family. When cancer enters the family, children will go through psychological and psychosocial turbulence in their lives. If this is something that your family is presently going through, we hope that these tips will work for you:
Honesty is the best policy when it comes to your diagnosis—it always has been and it always will be. You need to sit down with your kids and talk to them about what you are going to be going through. There have been enough stories about mothers that hide their diagnosis until it’s too late. Do not rob your children the chance to say good-bye if it comes down to it. Do not rob them of the opportunity to prepare themselves to help you. You would be surprised at what strength children are able to show.
Don’t Go Into Parenting Overdrive
The trouble with cancer is that you can feel like your time is either running out or is already cut shorter than it should be. So it can be pretty hard to strike a balance between being a good parent and being one that is rushing to impart all the lessons before the students are ready. A good thing to do is to write letters—impart your knowledge that way so that your kids will always have something to go back to when they’re grown up.
Before You Go
You can do this. It may seem impossible at times but that’s the way that parenting has always been. This is another curve that life has thrown at you and that does not mean that you should bow out of the game of life. You’ve gotten this far and this is another stage in your life that will make you a remarkable person.
What parenting tip in the face of breast cancer would you like to share?